5 Ways to Avoid Being a Helicopter Parent (part 5)- Takeaways from Helicopter Mom by Bethany L. Douglas
For those still with me, we have officially reached the finale of this series! Wahoo! I’m super excited to have taken this journey with you.
Okay, so there’s been (hopefully) some really good GodStuff for you to pray through and contemplate over this last month. If you haven’t read the first 4 blogs, I highly encourage you too check them out first. Here’s a link to the first one to get you going.
As this is only a 5 part series, I had a heckuva time whittling down the entire book. Not to brag, but there’s just so much good stuff in there- not because I’m a brilliant writer, but because God has tons of stuff to say about how to overcome fear and raise our children with Him at the helm. The Bible is just chalk-full of wisdom for this area! So as much as I’d love to write it all out (oh wait… I did… seriously check out the full book!) I’ll leave you with one more nugget of advice for helping to overcome this helicopter parenting thing.
Prayer is a thing people… and not only a thing… but an extremely powerful thing- a thing that brings peace, calm, and comfort. It’s a thing that nurtures your relationship with Christ, will bring His supernatural aid, and produces results. Simply put, prayer is the lynch-pin to this fearless lifestyle we’re all trying to attain.
We should be circling anything and everything in our lives in prayer- not the least of which is our children!
The obsessive nature of our fearing needs to be turned to obsessive praying! The goal is to pray-walk
through every aspect of your life and the lives of your children.First thing in the morning, pray. Before
meals, pray, Walking to the park, pray. Have a fear pop up- pray. Worrying about your kids- pray. Sitting at
the computer at work- pray. Driving in the car- pray. Let it infuse the beginning of every single new moment
of your day. We do a walk- around every time those skids leave the ground, which for some calls, is
multiple times on one flight. Make it a habit. Make it a very necessary practice in your head.
We’ve learned about taking all your fears and thoughts captive, now let’s bind them up,
down, and around and around. Let’s start praying circle upon circle around those fears. Hedge
them in with prayer! Make so many prayer circles around them that they are literally strangled
out. Death by prayer-asphyxiation! Suck all the life out of them by enrcircling them with prayer.
Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you, I Peter 5:7.Those fears that paralyze you,
that freak you out, that make day to day normalcy impossible- pray around them, pray and pray
and pray about them, pray through them, underneath them and over them.
I am absolutely all about envisioning things. Putting a minds-eye visual assignment to
stuff. Use this tool if it helps you to ‘see’ what prayers can do. Personally I have all kinds of
prayer visuals- I imagine chains of bondage going around my fears when I pray against them. I
shoot ‘arrows’ up towards heaven with improper thoughts I find myself having. I imagine my
guardian angels flying through the air to assist me when I know I’m going in to a spiritual
warfare situation and I’m praying for strength. Much of this came from my counseling
experiences and I’ve found the imagination to be a very helpful place to put spiritual eyes on
Conversely, I pray rings of protection around my children all the time. Whenever fears or
concerns of any kind rear up (whether logical or not) I pray circles around them. I think of them
as layers of spiritual bubble wrap followed by feather pillows surrounded by thick jello and all
suspended by angelic parachutes. Seriously, my kids are protected! They are earlobe deep in
prayer protection all the time. And I take that to the bank, I stand firm on that hill, and I rest
peacefully in their protection- because I’ve been intentional and proactive in my prayers for
them. I willfully and faithfully choose to believe that God’s got them because I’ve give them
back to Him, prayerfully, all the time. It takes some practice but, for me, it helps.
When it comes to fear, circle it, pray and pray and pray. Everytime you pray-walk around
that fear you strength the bonds that hold it, you create more safety from it, and you diminish it’s
ability to rear up and kick you in the shin. Instead of it chaining you to the ground, you are
imprisoning it. You are making it captive (very literally a prisoner) to Christ! Bind it spiritually with repetition
and persistence until it is strangled out by Christ bonds… and, poof! that fear is
no longer able to move, blink, paralyze, or handicap you anymore. (excerpt from Helicopter Mom ch. 13)
Prayer is such a powerful thing and yet we all too often use it as a last resort. Someone gets ill, we Google it, we ask friends, we try oils, etc etc and THEN when all else fails… we pray. Friends, this should literally be the FIRST thing we do. Our fears, our worries, our anxious thoughts… why are we not taking those early and often to the Throne? Why?? Doesn’t ‘work’ the first time, still battling those demons? Take them to the Father again… and again. And AGAIN. BE that needy widow beseeching the king. BE that irritating ask-er to the Lord. Spend so much time on your knees that you don’t have the time to actually worry. I promise you… THAT is very much a ‘thing’.
Do THAT kind of thing… you got this! Be that parent that kids grow up seeing on your knees. Let their memories of you be ones of prayer, thanksgiving, and supplication to a very big, very kind, very worthy God.
Whew! You made it! That’s the end of the this part of the trail. If you’re interested more about this prayer stuff, check out a few other blogs (The Power of Generic Prayer, and When All Else Fails Pray First among many others.) I also posted an entire series about praying through God’s names which is spectacular and written by the very talented Karen Guthrie. You can also check out the entire section within this blog that is just poetry and prayers or (again!) grab a copy of Helicopter Mom, chapter 13 not only goes into more depth regarding prayer but has several practical specifics that will give you a jump-start into a new prayer-life.